Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Gendered Relationships

I love to look at relationships. I can sit and people watch couples all day and be entertained. Every relationship is different in the ways they communicate. It is interesting to see who wears "the pants" in a relationship. It seems to me that switched gender roles is becoming more common in relationships. It is becoming more acceptable for men to be more emotional and for women to take on more masculine roles. A lot of times, the women or wives do "wear the pants." It does seem though that women do talk and want to talk more about the relationship. While the masculine approach would be to let things be, the feminine approach is to talk and talk and talk about things even when they are going fine.

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Gendered Education

School is a place of much more than just academics. It carries with it, social norms and situations. It really makes me wonder how seriously women's educations are being taken. Yeah things are getting more equal every decade, but where do we stand right now? There is a part in the reading that states, "In treating women as sexual objects, such actions tell women students that they are not taken seriously as members of an intellectual community." As soon as I read that, I was reminded of my 8th grade Health teacher.

I remember a teacher I had in middle school... Mr. Baylor. He had an awful reputation amongst the girls in our school. Every 8th grader in our school had to take Health class from Mr. Baylor. He was one of the only teachers that taught in a trailer off the back of our middle school. Our school had grown so much we ran out of classrooms. I wonder now if the other teachers just didn't want to deal with him either. My 7th grade year a student caught him watching porn and nothing happened. My year of Health class, we caught him watching porn again... still no one did anything. Looking back now, it is awful to think that this man was teaching all these 13 and 14 year old kids about their own bodies. My 9th grade year, he got his laptop taken away. And by the time I was in 10th grade, Mr. Baylor flow off the handle.

One day during class, he was trying to quiet the class and got upset. He yelled at all his female students, "You sluts are going nowhere in your lives. You are all just a bunch of whores!" Some of the young girls in his class were appalled and left the room. The next day Mr. Baylor was on "mental leave" and never came back. I wonder to this day why it took so long for the school to get rid of this man. I don't know what was happening behind closed doors, but I believe that no one should objectify women. I especially don't agree when they are teaching sex ed to young girls and boys.

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Becoming Gendered

Becoming Gendered has been one of my favorite chapters to read and discuss. The stories in the text are what honestly teach me the most too. Everyone is raised differently and that really has an impact on how you view your own gender and the gender of your peers. I've heard a lot of boys say, "yeah, I grew up in a household of all girls." Those boys tend to have more feminine characteristics and understand women's issues better. Everyone is taught differently. Where some parents would take away cooking sets from their little boys, some parents would sit down and play with their son.

Parents have an extreme impact on their children and their genders, but their parents had an impact on them and so on. Not all boys are going to be good at sports or girls good cooks. We all have our own skills and passions and I don't believe those should be forced according to gender. The story that Eric tells in the text was interesting to me. He states that, "Being a man has been about winning. Winning T-ball and than baseball." I feel like boys are being pushed to always compete to gain their worth while if a girl was to lose it's a different story. Girls I feel are often patted on the back and told it's okay, while boys have a harsher punishment for not winning.

Saturday, March 3, 2012

Comedians and Gender

So upon realizing I hadn't written my blog this week, I was watching one of my favorite comedians, Bo Burnham. He was doing a sketch called "Men and Women" so it was perfect to write on. As he poked fun at women's rights and how naturally men are better... I was laughing, but why? He also made fun of men, but as a man himself, it seemed as he backed off. He is a pretty offensive , but I find that a lot comedians and movies these days are. In this act he says, "Women can fake orgasms, but men can fake love." This at first shocked me, but thought about how sad that really is. Yeah women may fake sometimes, but so do men to get what they want. All genders, male or female, lie to get what they want sometimes. It's great to hear the audience in the background of his acts because there is often a mixture of responses. You hear the claps and laughs, but you also will hear "ohhhh" of maybe offense or even embarrassment for the comedian. I think it's funny at how much we poke fun at our own genders. I think it is such a common thing to make fun of, because everyone can relate to gender somehow. Sometimes it can be offensive, but I find it interesting in a setting where you know there is offensive comedian it is expected. 

I'll post the link to Bo's clip about men and women: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wMrgd_iQlbA