Monday, February 13, 2012

Verbal

As I looked at "Parallel Language" it made me wonder why feminine words seem more negative. I'd much rather be seen as a wizard than a witch any day. While a lady that that is unmarried might be seen as a spinster or old maid, a man is still a bachelor. Growing up, I remember asking my grandma about her husband. She didn't have the best marriage to say the least. I feel like many women today would easily divorce their alcoholic husbands, but she didn't. She always brings up..."I was worried that I'd be an old maid if I didn't marry him." It makes me so sad, that such an angel of a lady felt like she had to settle, so she wasn't seen as a "failure." 

Being a bachelor seems to have a sense of youth and freedom still. Women are always talked about as the "old ball and chain." It seems to me that, as women we don't really feel accomplished until we trick a nice man into marring us. I don't know about you, but I don't want to have to trick someone into that. I want him to want to marry me. The comment in the reading by Brian made me think about taking on my future husband's name. I never really thought about that. I always assumed I would take my husband's last name. As a little girl when I had a crush...okay still to this day, when I have a crush, I put your first name with their last to see if it flows nicely.

One day in my interpersonal communication class my professor asked us to shout out names for men and women that might be seen as promiscuous. The class was a little hesitant at first, but then the words started to flow. Slut, whore, prostitute, trick, bitch, easy, man whore, player or stud. Words for men who were sexually active, were almost seen as encouraged or funny, while the words for women are negative and degrading.Words make all the difference. Does this mean there is a double standard with gender language?

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